She may know on a conscious level that it simply wasn’t a match, but deep down she holds on to the destructive belief that she was the problem…and that she is unlovable and the guys she wants will never want her back. Having strong boundaries means you prioritize your needs and your emotions and do not assume responsibility for someone else’s needs and emotions.Confident women know what they will and will not accept and don’t allow themselves to be pressured or guilted into doing things they don’t want to do.
Healthy self-esteem is a prerequisite for healthy relationships.
From my personal experiences, and my years spent writing about relationships, I’ve learned that poor self-esteem is the number one cause of unhealthy relationships, as well as the top relationship killer.
Not everyone is a match and sometimes, two people are just incompatible.
This doesn’t make either of them flawed or bad – sometimes it’s just not there.
People with low self-esteem don’t trust their judgment, don’t trust their gut instincts, and are afraid of being wrong.
As a result, they either live their lives in a constant state of anxiety, or they look to others to guide them along the right path.
Only insecure people secretly feel that they are unworthy and feel the need to hide this by bragging about their achievements or talking themselves up.
A woman who reveals herself gradually, carefully peeling back the layers over time, is significantly more attractive than a woman who lays it all out there.
A woman with healthy boundaries will not lose herself in a relationship, and will not allow her identity to be entirely contingent upon how he sees her.