So I went through the motions, heavily dependent on lubricant for the first time in my life. “Just ask your husband to put more effort into foreplay,” she said. We needed professional help.‘For three years we ploughed on not wanting to admit our unhappiness.I could manage during the week when my husband was at work.
As Marcus Berkmann observes, ‘The notion that such wondrous creations have a function as well as ornamental value, is one of the more startling facts of new fatherhood.’‘We both agreed that Alex wasn’t going to breastfeed — nothing to do with the effect on her breasts, but because we both wanted to share the feeding,’ he says.
‘Minnie was two weeks early and fed every one to two hours. For the first two months Minnie slept in our bedroom in a Moses basket, which obviously has an effect, but it was the most sensible thing to do.‘Of course there are times when you think back to how your relationship used to be, but you have to remind yourself that you have this amazing, special new person in your life, and for a while you have to forget about the physical side of your relationship. That’s the main thing.’ ‘At first he fed every three hours through the night, and although Laura was breastfeeding I would get up and help, too,’ he says.
A third felt they were simply seen as a mum and no longer as a lover.
Only two per cent said their partner would consider them ‘sensual’, while more than one in five despairingly believed their spouses regarded them as ‘sexless’.
According to researchers these men have put on ‘baby blinkers’: they view their partners solely through the prism of their new role as mums.‘The first sense I got that something was wrong was the day after the birth of our daughter,’ she recalls.
‘I was lying in a hospital bed recovering from a Caesarean. But when I tried to stand up I fell back on to the bed in pain. If I said the baby needed the blinds in her room down, my husband said they needed to be up.Her warning was as shocking as it was unequivocal: ‘Don’t expect to have sex for the first year of your baby’s life,’ she said as she waved me and my husband out of the door.The women accuse their husbands of ‘forgetting’ about their sexual identity since they became mothers.Let Us Put You in Touch With Real Housewives Who are Tired of Being Alone.Connect With Ladies Looking to Get Some Attention From You!And that breastfeeding can remove any remnants of a libido you might have after two months of broken sleep and a daily battle of the wills.