The Bitter Gal The Bitter Gal is angry — usually about everything, but especially about men. A guy never has a chance, even he is the nicest guy in the world and really likes her.
(Which usually doesn’t last very long since, no matter how pretty and smart she is, she is no fun to be around.) The truth is that The Bitter Gal has been playing the victim for most (if not all) of her life.
She’s looking for her guy to be interesting, keep her laughing, ask her all about herself, and give her butterflies…all on the first date. That man then makes a poor impression (understandably), and the date is chalked up to another “he just wasn’t right for me” experience.
She hasn’t mastered the life skill of introspection, so she’s blinded by her bitterness.
It doesn’t occur to her that she might be the problem even though every date and relationship seems to end the same way.
By default she clings to the same type of guy she wanted in high school or college. (See the Wow Me Woman below.) The nice, relationship-minded men get quickly discarded by the 18 year old.
Try as he might, the 60-year-old fabulous guy can’t measure up to her expectations because she’s looking for a man who doesn’t exist.
Her life isn’t going the way she wants and she just can’t figure out why.
With men, she might complain that they just “don’t get her,” but the truth is that she’s giving them every reason to head for the hills with her off-handed comments and negativity.So I thought I’d tell you about the experience men have when they’re trying to “date like a grownup.” If you’ve read my e Book, you know that I believe strongly that empathizing with men is absolutely essential to your dating and relationship success.The definition of empathy is “the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person’s feelings.I’ve talked to countless single men over the years about their experiences with women, especially those in their 40s, 50s and beyond.In the following days I’m going to give you some of their stories of dating after 40 and relationships.She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.